My Day to Day Philosophies

Monday, October 02, 2006

Happiness is in the eye of the beholder

"He made me feel horrible."
"She always makes me feel stupid."
"They make me so angry."

I don't believe these are possible. I think a more accurate representation of these is:

"I feel stupid when she says that"
"I feel horrible when I am around him"
"I get angry when they do that"

Any feeling that you ever feel is your own reaction to something. No one can ever make you feel a certain way (unless they use a chemical and/or electrical method). What we mean by, "He makes me feel bad" is "He's found something that I get upset about." I think all to often people find it easier to blame something else for their own feelings instead of taking ownership of them.

Once you recognize that you are responsible for all of your own feelings, you can work on changing your reactions to what you want them to be.

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